I don't know if it's just because of the people I'm constantly around, but its irritating when people mistaken your kind actions as flirting. Or when you're just trying to be nice to a person you've just met, and they instantly assume you're romantically interested. Like, no, don't flatter yourself, I'm just trying to be nice.

Has anyone else had any similar experiences?

That happens to me all the time. I'm nice to almost everyone and guys think I'm hitting on them. A friend at school thought I was in love with him and I never gave him a second look. I was just really nice to him. My best friend finally asked me if I liked him and I said, "No. Not at all"

This happened a few times the last few years. I'm just nice and bubbly to people automatically, so it's really annoying when a guy thinks I'm being flirty.

One guy wanted to exchange phone numbers since he was new to college. But, I told him I wasn't interested in being more than friends, and he never messaged me after that. A few other guys were also interested in me.

One older creep was kind of stalkerish after I rejected him. Another old creep wanted my number for "business purposes" when he actually wanted a friend with benefits. Gross.

Then, a former friend had some sort of weird thought process. I think he was jealous of my fiance and hoping I would ditch my fiance for him. The friend was the hooking up type after all.

Ugh, some guys just don't understand that being nice doesn't equal flirting. -_-

OH this happens constantly. It's kind of sad that our kindness is taken as an invitation or just flirting when it's clearly not. It seems to happen more with women being nice to men? (Men - chime in if this has ever happened to you. I'm only commenting on my personal experience with female friends and co-workers).

When I use to work in retail at J.Crew, I would be polite and helpful to the men needing assistance, and would constantly get hit on. Mostly in a creepy way but older men (I'm not into older men so pls don't take offense lol). It made me feel uncomfortable and looked at if I was just kind of an object to them? I was just doing my job and they took my kindness as flirting. This has happened to many of my other female co-workers as well!

Even at college, in my geology department, the men in their also take my general kindness as flirting. So, they start flirting with me and touch me on the shoulders or knees - what people usually do when they flirt.

I'm sure there's been more instances in my life where this has happened but I can't think of any other major ones except those two. Lol!

Ugh, the worse thing is when the guy starts acting nice to you afterwards, because he automatically thinks he's reciprocating your flirting. Like, are you ever nice just for the sake of being nice, or are you always trying to get something out of someone?

I feel this on so many levels. I used to work as a cashier at walamrt and SO many times each day I got hit on because they thought I was flirting with them. They would start asking me out on dates and stuff and I was just like o___0 What... why... is this happening? What did I do to provoke this!

When I turned them down they said that I was leading them on and so flirty and they read me wrong yadda yadda. Im just nice... I just liek to talk. THATS ALL!!!

AHHH!!!!

All the time it happens. I am always just nice. But when I flirt it's a different approach anyways. Luckily I don't get asked out on dates at all for being nice to people. But it's still annoying people think it's flirting. Last year at work my crush thought I was flirting with every customer and coworker when in reality I only flirted with him and this other guy the rest I was just nice to. I don't mean to seem like I'm flirting I'm just nice x.x It sucks people take things the wrong way. Now my crush is my boyfriend and he now knows that I'm just being nice pfft. lol